I’m sorry you’ve been vulnerable lately. Part of that, as you’re noticing, is that, in your needs-paradigm, you haven’t figured out how to sate yourself.

Me either.

So, uh, yeah. A past therapist of mine told me that I see the world in terms of needs and how they can be met, which isn’t always realistic since my definitions aren’t necessarily universal–or even reciprocated.

If I had to pass off lame advice, it would be to tell people close to you what you need from them. Everything from “I need you to be silly” to “I need you to compliment me” to “I need you to listen.” I’m constantly surprised at how much the major people in my life miss out on what I thought they already understood.

Because even if you’re not so convinced of it, the people in your life see you as special in legitimate and powerful ways.

…so try to let the good sink in?

Mom